Infertility: the fate or illness?

The diagnosis of "infertile" - a shock for the couple. And then there are no strong differences for women and men. Regardless of gender, we see a happy family life, in which there is little tot ...

First: diagnosed with infertility "
He, she, as the middle child. He brings it and shared the same parents, complicates their lives and, at the same time, makes it valuable.
Suddenly uncle in a white coat says: "You could not get pregnant within a year, not unprotected (this term is now enough to make a diagnosis) - you infertile ..." Shock. In my head there is a lot of questions: "Why?" "How so?" And "What to do now?"
In the first two no one can answer. At last give so many answers that fit panic. But we should not panic.
Second: what to do?
If you wish to have a child is strong enough, then, certainly, to do something to, for example, to calm down, talk with your lover and decide which way you go. And the road is really not so much. You can find a suitable clinic, to conduct a survey, spend a lot of money and time, and really, really try to get pregnant.
The Dangers?
This way is fine if you're both willing to make sacrifices. If you have enough trust the doctors and agree to be treated for all that in any way affect the absence of pregnancy. If you are immune to the obsessive desires (for example, have a child no matter what) that any good usually does not lead, and if your alliance survive the news of the perpetrator of infertility.
Or
If you are not ready to make love as work to reproduce their own kind, and every month in the hope that the "red calendar days" will not. If you do not like to notice in a more "pregnant" changes, despite the absence of pregnancy itself, it is better to do sports, tempered and really, really try to lead a healthy and active lifestyle.
The Dangers?
Can you not be able to conceive a child, but it distracted from the problem itself. Remember, recently diagnosed with infertility placed after at least three years of sexual activity without contraception. And for two years (or 3, 4, 5 years), which in a stock that can happen anywhere.
Third: Public Opinion
I have a friend of the couple, who can not conceive a child is five years. All people know about it or guess, and still every time when going to the company, someone just ask: "Do not plan on children?"
Aunts and uncles as their immediate duty to intervene in this aspect of family relations. This missing. In that case, maybe it makes sense to announce to all that have a child in the next 10 years, you do not intend to. Can explain the reason (real or contrived), but not necessarily. In the end it's your own business.